Breastfeeding is disgusting because babies are eating and clearly babies are disgusting, too. They are like tiny little parasites hanging off a teet with white liquid coming out of it. How gross is THAT?
I don’t feel this way. I’m a mom of twins who are almost 1 and I’m still breastfeeding. (Cue the snarls! STILL breastfeeding? WHY? Some might say.) But people do feel this way. A lot of people. Men, women who are not yet mothers, but also mothers. So it’s a bit of everyone and the reality is that a lot of people think breastfeeding is sexual and totally disgusting.
It’s upsetting to me. I can get into the basics of what a lot of lactivists say, things I say myself. Like when people say breastfeeding moms should go to the bathroom, the response is “Would you want to eat in a bathroom?” Like when people say to cover up so no one can see, the response is “Do you like to eat with a blanket over your head?”
You can laugh, but the these are ridiculous requests. Nursing moms should be the ones with the request: If you personally do not want to see a mother nursing her child, look away. You have this amazing ability to not look at things you don’t want to see.
What makes me most upset is that there is something the general public so very often seems to forget. It’s revolutionary. It’s mind blowing. Are you ready for it? Okay … drum roll … Babies are people. Ta dah! Oh yes, they are! They are human beings. They should be treated with respect. They shouldn’t be forced into hiding before they eat just because female breasts have been so sexualized that they cannot be seen as anything but a pair of fun bags for pleasure.
You can laugh again, but it’s true. And sad.
I’ve nursed in public — both covered and uncovered. In the earlier months, my twins were fine under a nursing cover. But as they got older and more fidgety, it became useless — they would pull it over to the side so it wasn’t over their head. Any mom who has tried to get her kid to wear a barrette or a hat can attest how hard it is to get little ones to keep things on their heads.
Apparently though, cleavage is fine in public. Not disgusting. Totally a-ok, hunky dorey. Like this image below. It’s of Sofia Vergara on Modern Family. She’s actually more covered up than some women I see walking around in summertime. Go to South Beach in Miami and you’ll see even less clothes and much more skin. All in public.
I’m seeing more here on primetime television than others do when I breastfeed in public.
And I think this image on the most recent cover of Wired magazine is much more sexual …
… than this image of my son nursing.
Should Modern Family only be viewed in a public bathroom? Should Wired only be read while you are under a cover? Of course, it would be amazing to have television and a comfy (and clean) couch in a room off the public bathroom so I can nurse my babies. And if you are a closet Wired magazine fan, maybe you would read it under a cover. I hope the absurdity of me saying these things help people realize my point. Breastfeeders should not have to go into hiding like this mom did who was told not to breastfeed in a Dunkin Donuts. In New Jersey! Um … Snooki lived on the Jersey Shore for a summer and I saw a whole lot more of her in public than any nursing mom.
What am I missing? Why does most of the general public feel breastfeeding in public is wrong? Why are some people just repulsed by breastfeeding in general? Why aren’t more people fighting for babies’ rights? Is our society that immature, that uneducated, that unwelcoming to other people’s choices?
Okay … maybe that last question really answers it all.